10 Messages of Hope for Survivors of Suicide Loss

Those who’ve lost a loved one to suicide face a complex type of grief which may leave them feeling alone, confused or even guilty. Carrying on after suicide loss takes immense strength and courage. While it may feel like this pain will last forever, through time and with support healing is possible. Whether you’re a survivor of suicide loss, or know someone who is, these messages about life after loss can help you find hope.

 

 

1. “Healing is not about moving on or ‘getting over it.’ It’s about learning to make peace with our pain and finding purpose in our lives again.” — Shirley Kamisky

 

2. “Moving on doesn’t mean letting go.” — Mary VanHaute.

 

3. “Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” — Vicki Harrison

 

4. “If you’ve lost a loved one to suicide—even if you, yourself, have dealt with depression and suicidal ideation—you may often wonder why. And that’s okay. Allow yourself that space.” — Karen Espenshade

 

5. “One thing I learned is however I decided to grieve is the right way for me. Everyone’s different.” — Ron Prickett

 

6. “Loss from suicide is like no other loss, and there’s no time limit for grieving. Allow yourself that time to process. And then talk to someone, anyone.” — Deenie Bagley

 

7. “The best piece of advice I got was, ‘Once you accept that many, if not most, of your questions will never be answered, you can start to move forward.’” — Michele Starbeck

 

8. “Talk about them. Be proud of them. Losing a courageous battle doesn’t make you weak” — Jennifer Betts

 

9. “A person never truly gets over a suicide loss. You get through it. Day by day. Sometimes it’s moment by moment” — Holly Kohle

 

10. “Continue to live your life, know that it’s OK to smile again. Don’t ever be ashamed or let anyone make you feel ashamed.” — Jackie Burson

 

 

 

 

Support For Suicide Loss Survivors

While feelings of grief may never go away, we can learn to make peace with these feelings. 

There is no one “right way” to grieve or a set time period for grieving. Grief, and healing from suicide loss, looks different for everyone—and that’s okay. Don’t be afraid to ask for help—it’s always available, whenever you’re ready for it. 

 

Here are 5 resources for suicide loss survivors:

  1. American Foundation for Suicide Loss Prevention — Living with Suicide Loss
  2. Healing Conversations — Personal Support for Suicide Loss
  3. A Handbook For Suicide Survivors
  4. Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — Loss Survivors
  5. Alliance of Hope for Suicide Loss Survivors

 

If you’re in need of additional support, Valera Health offers individual therapy as well as grief support groups. Visit https://www.valerahealth.com/consult-today/ or click here to request a free consultation with a dedicated Health Connector who will help you find a therapist. 

If you or someone you know is experiencing a medical emergency, call the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at “988” or go to the nearest emergency room. 

9 Tips for Seasonal Affective Disorder

As the sun goes down earlier and temperatures drop, we find ourselves longing for sunshine and warm weather. However, for some individuals, seasonal changes bring more than just a longing for summer again, and can cause the onset of seasonal affective disorder (SAD).

Seasonal affective disorder occurs in cases where “…these mood changes are more serious and can affect how a person feels, thinks and handles daily activities,” according to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH). SAD begins and ends around the same time each year, and typically resolves in the spring to summer months.

Fortunately, there are a handful of ways to relieve the symptoms of SAD that can be done from the comfort of your own home. You don’t have to wait until the warmer months come around to experience relief.

Tips for Coping with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

Tip #1: Get a light therapy lamp. 

This type of lamp is specifically made to treat conditions like SAD. Because of the amount of light intensity they produce, light therapy lamps have the ability to mimic sunlight, which in return triggers positive mental and biological effects. Experts recommend that you should slowly ease into the use of your light therapy lamp, gradually leading up to using this light for about a half an hour per day. They also find it crucial to expose yourself to some light in the morning (before 10 a.m.)  so depressive thoughts and effects subside early on. 

Tip #2: Wake up & go to bed with a dawn simulator.

Dawn simulators—a.k.a. sunrise alarms—are alarm clocks designed to help you improve sleep by waking up and going to bed gradually. By using timed lights, they mimic how the sun rises in the morning and sets at night, tuning in with natural circadian rhythm patterns. Dawn simulators are known for benefits such as boosting energy, improving sleep and decreasing stress levels.

Tip #3: Exercise.

Exercise is one of the best ways to release feel-good endorphins—a fast acting mood booster. Exercise can help ease feelings of depression and anxiety. Getting enough exercise is also a great way to calm down and clear the mind. During winter and fall months, gyms provide a solid place to exercise without having to brave chilly weather. Or, if you prefer to stay in, these at-home exercises will get you moving.

Tip #4: Journal.

Journaling can help you release your thoughts and feelings, which in turn can help improve anxiety and mood levels. We recommend utilizing specialized journal prompts designed for those experiencing SAD in mind—one one of which can be downloaded here.

Tip #5: Limit alcohol consumption.

When you’re experiencing constant low moods, it can be easy to turn to alcohol for comfort. However, this is actually counterproductive as drinking when depressed can result in worsening depressive symptoms and spiraling negative thoughts. Although it may be tempting, It’s important to be conscientious of how much you’re drinking and how it makes you feel so you don’t end up feeling even worse—both physically and psychologically.

Tip #6: Aromatherapy.

Aromatherapy—or diffusing or rolling essential oils—is a great way to quickly boost your mood and promote relaxation. Putting essential oils in a diffuser or taking an aromatic bath before bed are great ways to channel inner peace and calm.

Aromatherapy experts recommend these oils for improving SAD symptoms:

  1. Patchouli Oil (Pogostemon cablin)
  2. Bergamot Oil (Citrus bergamia)
  3. Cardamom Oil (Elettaria cardamomum)

For more oils that promote relaxation and help with depression symptoms, click here.

Tip #7: Stick to a schedule.

Schedules are crucial when dealing with SAD, as many individuals with this condition struggle with waking up and sleeping. Being able to keep a steady and regular schedule is very helpful when it comes to improving sleep quality and keeping your body in a balanced state throughout the day. According to the Mayo Clinic, “Keeping a regular schedule will also expose you to light at consistent and predictable times…which is beneficial for your circadian rhythm.”

Tip #8: Consider medication.

Antidepressants can be a helpful tool for combatting the depressive symptoms that come with SAD. If you’re considering going on antidepressants for SAD, make sure to consult your doctor first.

Tip #9: Try Therapy.

Therapy is a great way to learn coping strategies for managing and improving SAD symptoms. In therapy, you can learn new skills to help you navigate the emotional lows that come with SAD and receive much needed support during these difficult seasons.

Final Thoughts

At Valera Health, we offer virtual mental healthcare treatment tailored to each individual. Our services include individual therapy, group therapy, psychiatry and medication management—all of which can be effective tools for individuals with seasonal affective disorder. Our seasonal Holiday Support Group can help participants find relief and manage the unique struggles that come with this time of year such as SAD, stress, loneliness and more.

Whether you’re struggling with SAD or other mental health issues, we’re here to help you find the right provider for you. To request a free consultation with a Health Connector who can match you with a provider, visit https://www.valerahealth.com/consult-today/ or click here. 

Remember that seasonal affective disorder is temporary. By practicing self-care and being aware of your needs and challenges around SAD, you can find relief.

Works Referenced:

Beth W. Orenstein and Michelle Pugle. (n.d.). 14 ways to ease seasonal depression. EverydayHealth.com. https://www.everydayhealth.com/depression/treatment/ways-to-ease-seasonal-depression/ 

Health, A. (2019, December 9). How to use light therapy for sad. Adventist Health. https://www.adventisthealth.org/blog/2019/december/feeling-sad-try-light-therapy/#:~:text=You%20should%20absorb%20light%20from,some%20light%20before%2010%20a.m. 

Loeb, K. (2020, December 18). Tips for managing seasonal affective disorder (during a pandemic). Vail Health Foundation. https://vailhealthfoundation.org/news/tips-for-managing-seasonal-affective-disorder-during-a-pandemic/?gclid=CjwKCAjwp8OpBhAFEiwAG7NaEreVRwjA3xDEIhhywNhN17zDJylUEe0cWqy_Bt-vrHTHIrj77zeqVxoCdCYQAvD_BwE 

Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research. (n.d.). Seasonal affective disorder (SAD). Mayo Clinic. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/seasonal-affective-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20364651 

Williams, K. (2023, October 7). 13 essential oils for seasonal affective disorder. Aromatics International. https://www.aromatics.com/blogs/wellness/13-essential-oils-for-seasonal-affective-disorde

How DBT Can Transform Your Life

As we go through our fast-paced, everyday lives, it can feel like a challenge to manage and navigate all the intense emotions and unexpected incidents that we’re faced with along the way. 

In response to these challenges, Dr. Marsha Linehan created dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) as a road map for individuals struggling with their mental health and emotional wellness. Throughout this blog, we’ll explore how DBT works and how it can benefit you.

 

What is DBT?

DBT is a specific type of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). DBT helps individuals accept and manage the world around them rather than reacting to uncomfortable situations in a harmful way. DBT is a long-term therapeutic practice that’s often used to help work through suicidal ideation or self-harm, complex life difficulties, PTSD, bipolar disorder and other mental health disorders and challenges. 

There are four core strategies DBT aims to teach individuals: Mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotional regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness. In particular, DBT can help those who may feel emotions intensely. The “dialectical” portion of DBT means to try and understand how two things that seem opposite could be true at the same time. DBT teaches individuals how to master the art of finding a balance between both change and acceptance of oneself and one’s own environment.

 

Benefits of DBT

DBT serves several purposes and provides many benefits to individuals  seeking help and solace. It’s an incredibly valuable therapeutic approach for individuals struggling with their mental health. 

Benefits of DBT Include:

  1. Strengthens relationships with others. DBT teaches individuals to think before abruptly reacting, and how to build a balanced perspective (middle ground in the case of opposing viewpoints). DBT increases self awareness and decreases destructive behavior which can lead to the nourishment of close supportive relationships.
  2. Raises self esteem. DBT can use validation techniques that validate one’s emotions and experiences. As this can boost one’s confidence in their emotions, this also translates into personal self esteem as feelings of shame are often lessened. DBT challenges an individual to go against their negative thoughts which in turn negates a lot of negative self talk.
  3. Enhances emotional regulation. DBT will teach an individual how to manage their emotions rather than be managed by their emotions. These learnt skills will assist in the development of reducing negative emotions and one’s vulnerability to them and help see a more positive outlook on stressful situations.
  4. Promotes a change in behavior and positive thinking. Because DBT builds an individual’s distress tolerance, it assists in managing anxious or depressive tendencies. It allows individuals to not feel defined by stressful or tumultuous situations and rather work through them with emotional intelligence which makes it easier to have a positive outlook on changes and ones thinking. 

 

What skills can DBT teach me?

DBT is broken up into four different modules: Mindfulness, emotional regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness. 

Mindfulness, when referring to DBT, helps with talking through, being aware and accepting the present moment without judgment. These practices help build awareness skills that teach us to relax our body and mind in times of distress—ultimately, strengthening our mind-body connection. Mindfulness also helps us learn to let go of negative thoughts and intrusive thought patterns. 

DBT also focuses on emotional regulation and changing one’s undesired emotions to reduce vulnerability to them. Emotional regulation skills help one examine their distortions and patterns of thinking, and work on emotional urges. These emotional regulation skills are an important part of improving problem solving and coping strategies. 

Another skill this type of therapy focuses on is distress tolerance. Improving distress tolerance is important when it comes to our ability to work through crises situations without escalating them. It helps us to understand the distinction between acceptance and approval. Distress tolerance exercises include cost-benefit analysis, grounding techniques and practicing radical acceptance. 

Lastly, DBT focuses on building interpersonal effectiveness, which means learning how to apply effective strategies for managing conflict, setting boundaries and communicating our needs to those around us.

 

DBT at Valera Health

Is it time to try DBT? 

Here’s how to know if DBT is right for you:

  1. You’re experiencing feelings of loneliness and hopelessness that feel insurmountable.
  2. You seem to lose people quickly or suddenly due to fallouts.
  3. You struggle to maintain positive relationships with partners, family and friends.
  4. Your emotions interrupt with work, goals and relationships. 
  5. Your emotions feel debilitating and overwhelming.

 

Valera Health offers a wide range of virtual DBT therapy groups, both in New York and Arizona. Currently, our DBT skills groups are open to established patients that are 18+ years of age. The majority of Valera’s DBT groups include four modules that run for a total of six months. While participants only need to commit to at least 8 weeks, it is recommended they complete all four.

Valera Health’s DBT program can benefit adults and adolescents experiencing emotional dysregulation, relational issues, poor impulse control and anxiety and depression symptoms. 

For those seeking more intimate one-on-one sessions, our providers are well-versed in individual DBT therapy. 

Whether you’re interested in a DBT group or individual DBT therapy, you can request a free consultation with Valera Health. We also offer other forms of group and individual therapy, psychiatry and medication management—all from the comfort of your own home.

The best way to know if DBT is for you: You are ready for change and committed to making yourself better. 

Though it can be intimidating, reaching out for more information regarding DBT therapy can be one of the most rewarding things you can do for yourself. Whether you have a specific mental health condition or are just looking to improve your life, anyone can benefit from DBT therapy.

 

 

Works Referenced:

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. (2022, November 5). Distress tolerance. DBT. https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/distress-tolerance/ 

Emotion regulation. DBT Self Help. (2023, September 27). https://dbtselfhelp.com/dbt-skills-list/emotion-regulation/#:~:text=Emotion%20Regulation%20is%20the%20Dialectical,and%20build%20positive%20emotional%20experiences 

Schimelpfening, N. (2023, May 1). How dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) works. Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/dialectical-behavior-therapy-1067402 

Transtrum, T. (2023, May 3). Anxiety & depression are on the rise-here’s what you need to know. Valera Health. https://www.valerahealth.com/anxiety-and-depression-are-on-the-rise/

All About Adult ADHD

Despite the fact that ADHD is one of the most common childhood disorders, a growing number of adults are getting diagnosed. You may be asking, “Why the sudden uptick?”

Well, oftentimes signs of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) in children can go unnoticed by teachers and parents—especially when we factor in how ADHD can present itself differently in girls vs. boys. 

As knowledge about ADHD expands, so does our understanding of this disorder and its signs. So what does ADHD look like later in life? Keep reading to find out.

What is ADHD?

Also known as attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder, which is a category of disorders marked by conditions that affect growth and development of the brain and how it functions. 

ADHD can cause certain brain regions to become hyperactive (highly active beyond standard levels) and others to become hypoactive (less active than standard levels). 

As Medical News Today puts it: “A person with ADHD may be unable to suppress brain activity in the default attention network, especially as a task becomes more difficult. This may link to more distractibility.”

Signs of ADHD in Adults

ADHD doesn’t just affect children and teens. It’s estimated that close to 10 million adults have ADHD, according to recent numbers from Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (CHADD). 

For those whose ADHD went undiagnosed during childhood, the following reasons may have been at play:

  • Parents or teachers may not have noticed signs of ADHD, or may not have known the signs of ADHD to look out for in the first place
  • The severity of their ADHD could have been mild
  • Despite having ADHD, they performed well academically
  • Masked signs of ADHD
  • Signs of ADHD can differ by genders

Another possible reason for delayed ADHD diagnosis is that the stresses of adulthood—such as work, higher education, and increased responsibilities (finances, family, less support, etc.)—can exacerbate ADHD symptoms and make them harder to manage.

Signs of ADHD in Adults Include:

  • Regular hyperactivity, which can look like:
    • Restlessness or an inability to sit still
    • Stimming or fidgeting, as in repeating certain sounds or body movements unconsciously (for example, rocking back and forth, pacing around, grinding teeth, doodling, nail biting, etc.)
  • Zoning out or daydreaming
  • Trouble paying attention for long periods of time or becoming easily distracted
  • Disorganization, such as constantly having a cluttered home, car or desk
  • Having trouble finishing tasks
  • Becoming easily overwhelmed
  • Making careless mistakes on tasks, such as work projects
  • Losing interest in tasks easily, especially with things you find to be boring or repetitive
  • Hyperfocusing or fixating on interesting tasks or subjects
  • Struggling with motivation
  • Forgetfulness 
  • Procrastination
  • Poor time management
  • Reacting strongly to relatively small stressors or inconveniences
  • Impatience
  • Sudden shifts in moods
  • Angry outbursts 
  • Indecisiveness or feelings overwhelmed when faced with choices
  • Overstimulation
  • Excessive talking, blurting things out, and unintentionally interrupting others

ADHD Signs in Women vs. Men

During both childhood and adulthood, ADHD can look different according to gender. 

The CDC reports that 13% of boys (ages 3-17) in the U.S. are diagnosed with ADHD, compared to 6% of girls (ages 3-17).  However, due to underrecognized and underreported signs of ADHD in females, the prevalence of ADHD among girls is likely higher than reported.

Signs of ADHD in Females*:

  • Maladaptive daydreaming
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Spacing out during conversations
  • Easily losing focus
  • Auditory processing disorder
  • Forgetfulness
  • Eating disorders
  • Hypersexuality
  • Impatience
  • Body-focused repetitive behaviors (e.g. skin picking, hair pulling, leg bouncing)
  • Fatigue
  • Insomnia
  • Crying with deep emotion, anger, and feelings of guilt and shame
  • Shyness due to social anxiety and sensory sensitivities
  • Rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) symptoms
    • Perfectionism
    • People-pleasing
    • Codependency
    • Body dysphoria
    • Low self-esteem
    • Overachieving
    • Underachieving 
    • Overwhelm
    • Intense emotional reactions

Hormone levels*—in particular estrogen levels—can also impact the severity and intensity of ADHD symptoms at different stages of life, including: puberty, monthly menstrual cycles, perimenopause and menopause.

Signs of ADHD in Males*:

  • Hyperactivity (e.g. fidgeting)
  • Disruptive behavior
  • Frequently losing items
  • Interrupting others during conversations
  • Aggressive behaviors
  • High risk behaviors (e.g., substance misuse, speeding, unhealthy sexual behaviors, excessive financial spending)
  • Insecurity—more often presented externally as the following:
    • Anger
    • Apathy
    • Self-centeredness
    • Seeming insensitive to other people’s emotions
    • Teasing others or being sarcastic
    • Needing to be right or proving others wrong
    • Defensiveness

Due to the way ADHD presents itself in females and how they cope with symptoms, signs of this disorder may be brushed off as “perfectionism” or being “emotional.” Women and girls are also less likely to express hyperactivity and impulsivity externally. 

The signs of ADHD in males have historically been used as a standard for ADHD diagnosis—in part because males typically show symptoms in a more external manner, and in part due to gender bias. 

*Source: https://psychcentral.com/adhd/adhd-and-gender 

How is ADHD Diagnosed?

There are multiple tests used to diagnose ADHD in both children and adults. If you Google “ADHD testing,” you’ll find plenty of online self-diagnosis tests—however, licensed medical professionals like psychiatrists and primary care physicians (PCPs) are the only people who can provide an accurate ADHD diagnosis.

After speaking with your doctor, they may decide that it makes sense for you to do a psychological assessment, which will help determine if an ADHD diagnosis is fitting.

Popular ADHD Assessments Include:

  1. The Test of Variables of Attention (TOVA)
  2. Behavior Rating Inventory of Executive Functioning-Adult Version (BRIEF-A)
  3. Barkley Adult ADHD Rating Scale-IV (BAARS)
  4. Conners’ Adult ADHD Rating Scales (CAARS)

Treating ADHD

Therapy, medication and social support are three of the best ways to treat ADHD. At Valera Health, we happen to offer all three. Our virtual services include both individual and group therapy, psychiatry and medication management. Currently, we offer multiple ADHD support groups in New York, and other therapy groups in additional states (more to come soon!). Our Health Connectors are here to help you begin your treatment journey. Visit https://www.valerahealth.com/consult-today/ or click here to get started with a free consultation. For additional ADHD support resources, click here.

Thanks to the expansion of research on ADHD in adults, signs and symptoms of ADHD are becoming more widely understood. While we still have a ways to go, the future of ADHD treatment and diagnosis looks bright. 

Mastering the Art of Panic Attack Prevention: From Panic to Peace

In the labyrinth of life, there are moments when the body’s fight-or-flight response becomes triggered with astounding intensity out of the blue, despite there being no imminent danger around us. These moments are referred to as “panic attacks.” 

Whether you’re someone who personally experiences panic attacks or you’re hoping to support a loved one, these tips can help you navigate the storm that is panic attacks.

 

Symptoms of a Panic Attack

Many times, panic attacks are physical manifestations one experiences as a result of high anxiety levels. These physical symptoms can be so severe an individual experiencing them may believe they are having a heart attack. Panic attacks can be triggered by severe anxiety, phobias, a change in environment or by being under heavy, long-term stress.

Signs you may be having a panic attack include:

  • Hyperventilation (rapid breathing)
  • Rapid heartbeat 
  • Sudden numbness in the hands 
  • Nausea 
  • Chest pain that feels “stuck” in the mid-chest area 
  • Sudden dizziness 
  • Hot flashes 
  • Shortness of breath (feeling like you can’t get enough air)
  • Shivering or shaking uncontrollably
  • “Pins and needles” sensation (the feeling of uncomfortable tingling or prickling)

While it’s hard to stop a panic attack in its tracks, there are ways you can regain control, lessen the intensity of symptoms and ease yourself out of this uncomfortable experience.

 

 

How to Work Through a Panic Attack

Sensory grounding 

  • The keywords here are ice and sweets. If you’re able to, grab a cold washcloth, water bottle or ice cube and rub it on your face. Panic attacks can induce hot flashes so cold stimuli may help you to cool down and calm down, which in turn can shorten panic attacks and make them more bearable. Another way to try this type of sensory grounding is to quickly dunk your head or face under cold water (make sure the water isn’t too freezing first!). Some people prefer to do the “sour candy trick” instead by sucking on a super sour candy when feeling panicked. The tart taste helps with refocusing and shifting attention away from the symptoms of a panic attack. If you’re prone to panic attacks, we recommend carrying sour candy around whenever you’re out and about so you always have them handy, just in case.

Affirmation statements 

  • Work on telling yourself positive, affirmative statements. These can be phrases like “This will pass and is temporary,” “I am in control, I’m feeling overwhelmed but I will get through this,” or “This feeling is uncomfortable but not dangerous.”

Close your eyes + do square breathing

  • Closing your eyes may help you calm down and block out overstimulation around you in order to bring you back to the present. While your eyes are closed, practice the “square” breathing technique, also referred to as “box breathing.” This technique happens in fours. Begin by letting trapped air out through your mouth, then inhale through your nose for four seconds. Hold that breath for another four, then exhale to the count of four. 

Adopt a “focus object”

  • It can be helpful to adopt a focus object, which is something around you to focus all of your attention on during a panic attack. When you decide on an object, try and take mental notes of everything about it. This can include the texture, color, shape, sound, temperature or smell of your chosen object. This method is useful for both relaxing and distracting your brain from panic attack symptoms.

 

What Can I Do to Prevent Panic Attacks?

  1. Practice mindfulness. Practice mindfulness regularly by saying daily affirmations or taking five minutes each morning to practice deep breathing.  
  2. Keep an orange in the freezer. Though it may sound odd, having a frozen orange on hand can help when you are experiencing high anxiety or feel a panic attack coming on. When you start to notice the onset of panic attack symptoms, grab the frozen orange and rub it on your neck, arms or face. The freezing cold sensation of the orange as well as its bumpy texture can essentially “shock” an overwhelmed sympathetic nervous system back to its neutral and relaxed state. 
  3. Take preventative lifestyle measures. If you do feel relatively more anxious than normal, it could be beneficial to cut out or cut down on things that have been shown to increase anxiety, such as caffeine, cigarettes and alcohol.
  4. Prioritizing getting enough sleep. Sleep is crucial in times when we experience severe anxiety. When you’re sleep deprived, this prompts a higher level of cortisol through the bloodstream, which in turn activates the nervous system and puts us at a higher risk of experiencing physiological symptoms of anxiety—like panic attacks. 

 

 

What Should I Do After Having a Panic Attack?

Following a panic attack, many individuals still experience lingering physical and emotional pain and anxiety, sometimes referred to as a “panic attack hangover.” After a panic attack, we’re often left feeling exhausted and completely fatigued. It’s easy to feel mentally trapped and stuck in a state of still feeling panicked or on overdrive, even after the panic attack itself has ended. 

When you catch yourself caught up in the dread of a panic attack hangover, remember that there are ways to get you out of this funk that don’t require much energy. 

First, try journaling. Journaling is a great and easy way to get all your thoughts down on paper and focus on being present in the moment. Not only will this help relieve some anxiety, but it will also allow you to clear your head and focus better afterwards. 

Exercise—like meditation, yoga, or walking—is another great way to refocus your energy and mind, allowing you to get yourself into a new environment. 

Getting a good night’s rest and fueling yourself with nutritious food can also help curb a panic attack hangover by boosting energy and reducing fatigue. Learning how to manage panic attacks can be a long and hard process, but worthwhile in the end. Continue to be patient with yourself and give yourself grace while exploring new techniques that work for you. With time and effort, you can gain control over your panic attacks.

 

Additional Support

Therapists and psychiatrists are a great resource for anyone who struggles with anxiety. Valera Health’s licensed medical professionals are here to provide you with additional anxiety support should you need it. If you’d like to work with a therapist or psychiatrist who can help you manage your anxiety, visit www.valerahealth.com/consult-today/ or click here to schedule a free consultation with a dedicated Health Connector.

 

 

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5 Books You Need to Read This National Book Month

By Taylor Transtrum & Ellie Luciano 

 

Calling all bookworms! National Book Month has arrived—the time to celebrate literary magic, page-turning words and the joy of reading! Our therapists know first-hand the power that books can hold when it comes to our mental health—and lucky for you, they’ve decided to share their favorite fiction and nonfiction book selections to devour this October. Within each page you’ll find unique perspectives, invaluable lessons and journeys of introspection. Your new favorite book awaits you!

 

 

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma 

Author: Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

Selected by Abby Fink, LMSW, Clinical Program Manager, Group Therapy, Valera Health

Raved about by psychologists everywhere, this #1 New York Times Best Seller is a poignant read that offers keen insights into the science and research behind post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), innovative treatments, pathways to recovery and personal stories about PTSD survivors sure to tug at your heartstrings.

 

 

Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

Author: Rachel Reiland

Selected by Kelly Finn, LCSW, Supervising Therapist and Team Lead, Valera Health

Get Me Out of Here is a gutting memoir that unveils the raw truth of what borderline personality disorder (BPD) feels like from the inside. Sparing no details, Rachel Reitland paints an intricate picture of how her BPD affects every aspect of her life. Even in Rachel’s darkest moments, readers of this book will find hope in her story and discover that with ongoing treatment and determination, healing is possible.

Bonus Read:

“For the comic book readers out there, many of the Wonder Woman graphic novels touch the topics of grief, forgiveness, and diversity—all of which can speak to those of us who struggle with mental health issues in our life.” — Kelly Finn, LCSW, Supervising Therapist and Team Lead at Valera Health

 

 

The Glass Castle: A Memoir

Author: Jeannette Walls

Selected by Victoria Abruzzo, LCSW, Associate Director of Clinical Operations and Supervising Therapist, Valera Health

Described by Entertainment Weekly as “nothing short of spectacular,” The Glass Castle tells the true story of the eccentric yet dysfunctional upbringing of Jeannette Walls. Raised by free-spirited and nomadic parents, Jeannette and her three siblings learned to fend for themselves at a young age, having only each other to lean on throughout their abnormal childhood. In an attempt to forget her difficult past, Jeannette buried these roots for two decades. Now, she’s ready to speak her truth in page-turning detail.

 

 

Happiness for Beginners

Author: Katherine Center

Selected by James Riter, LCSW, Supervising Therapist, Valera Health

After getting divorced at 32, Helen Carpenter struggles to piece her life back together. At the recommendation of her brother Duncan, Helen signs-up for an intense wilderness survival course in the backwoods of Wyoming. Despite her best wishes, it ends up being another disaster on top of a year filled with a seemingly endless stream of disasters. But within the struggle, Helen learns the beauty that can come when faced with life’s hardest challenges.

Brené Brown, professor and New York Times bestselling author, sings praise for this heartfelt novel: “This wise, delicious, page-turning novel won’t let you go. Katherine Center writes about falling down, growing up, and finding love like nobody else. You can always see yourself and the people you love in her characters and their stories.”

 

 

Turtles All the Way Down

Author: John Green

Selected by Ellie Luciano, Clinical Intern, Valera Health

“Turtles All the Way Down is a favorite of mine as it’s eye opening, relatable and extremely descriptive. This story is an honest reminder that everyone is going through something whether you can see it or not, and every person’s mental health experience is uniquely theirs. Green does a phenomenal job at putting the harsh reality of living with anxiety and OCD into words through the main character Aza. Aza encompasses what OCD can feel like for many individuals and portrays what goes on in the mind of someone suffering with OCD and anxiety incredibly well—all through the in depth descriptions of compulsions, thought spirals, relationships, and dialogue.” — Ellie Luciano, Clinical Intern, Valera Health

 

You can find all of these fantastic book selections online, in stores or at your local library. For even more great reads, Valera Health offers a virtual book club centered around mental health through engaging discussions and book selections. Visit our group therapy page and calendar to join the next session or to explore other therapy groups (currently available in NY and MA). 

To schedule a free consultation with a Health Connector who can help you get started with group therapy, individual therapy or psychiatry/medication management, click here.

 

Know the Warning Signs: Mental Health Issues in Children & Teens

As a parent or caregiver, it can be hard to know whether your child is exhibiting behaviors that are normal for their age or if there’s something deeper going on.

You may find yourself saying “I guess that’s just how they are at that age,” or “Teenagers, am I right?” when they are being difficult or acting out. 

However, it’s important to be aware of the signs that your child or teenager is struggling with their mental health because, if ignored, this can greatly impact important development milestones and areas of life including: relationships with peers and family; learning ability; emotional development and physical development; and even your child’s ability to navigate the world or simply get through each day. 

Keep reading to learn how to spot the signs that your child or teen is struggling with their mental health—and what you, as a parent, can do to help them thrive.

 

 

Signs of Mental Health Issues in Children

Children may exhibit signs of mental health issues in many different ways, which can vary from child to child.

Here are some common signs to look out for:

  • Outbursts, tantrums or lashing out
  • Extreme anger, rage or irritability
  • Persistent sadness lasting two or more weeks
  • Hurting oneself or expressing a desire to hurt oneself
  • Fascination with death or suicide
  • Hitting or acting violently towards other children or adults
  • Drastic changes in mood or personality
  • Sleeping problems such as having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, bedwetting or nightmares
  • Loss of weight or refusal to eat
  • Frequent stomach aches
  • Frequent headaches
  • Extreme shyness
  • Poor academic performance
  • Difficulty focusing
  • Avoiding or missing school 
  • Bullying others
  • Reporting being bullied
  • Being socially withdrawn or avoidant


Signs that your child is struggling with their mental health can differ depending on what age they are. This blog post further discusses additional signs of mental health issues in infants, toddlers and young children.

 

Signs of Mental Health Issues in Teenagers

According to Verywell Mind, the following signs are indicative of mental health issues in teenagers:

  • Being irritable or angry frequently
  • Feeling overwhelmingly sad, worried, scared, or hopeless
  • Experiencing extreme mood swings—such as alternating between euphoria and depression
  • Behaving moody and withdrawn. They may stop communicating with you and prefer to be isolated. They may stop seeing their friends, or communicating with them via phone, text, or social media.
  • Losing interest in activities they once enjoyed
  • Developing a fear of common things or being scared to try new things
  • Having difficulty coping with everyday activities and stressors
  • Being unable to relate to others or express their emotions
  • Changing their appearance drastically or neglecting their personal hygiene
  • Picking fights with friends, family members, teachers, or school authorities
  • Sleeping all the time or having trouble sleeping. They may often feel tired or low on energy.
  • Eating all the time or having no appetite. You may notice changes in their weight or eating habits.
  • Having unexplained physical ailments such as headaches, stomach aches, or other complaints
  • Having difficulty with learning, thinking, remembering, or concentrating
  • Performing poorly at school or having no interest in school work
  • Using substances such as alcohol, marijuana, or drugs
  • Engaging in risky, unsafe behaviors or causing trouble at home, school, or in their community
  • Engaging in self-harm
  • Talking about death or suicide

 

 

How to Help Your Child or Teen

Healing starts at home. If you notice your child is acting differently or having a difficult time, encourage them to talk openly with you about their feelings. Create safe spaces for them to talk without the fear of being judged. Voice your concerns to teachers, coaches and other adults who are involved in your child’s life. They may be able to provide extra information about what is going on, or simply play a supportive role in your child’s life.

Provide your child with downtime, space and opportunities for self-care. Treat them with compassion, especially if they are acting out. Don’t forget to treat yourself with compassion and practice self-care too. Be patient—they might not feel like opening up at first, so continue to encourage them and remind them you’re here for them when they need you.

Your child or teen may also feel more comfortable talking to a mental healthcare professional who can provide them with additional support and an outside perspective. 

Valera Health’s Child and Adolescent Program (CAP) was designed specifically with children, teens and adolescents ages 6-17 as well as for parents and caregivers. Through an age-appropriate and data-driven approach, our CAP therapists, psychiatrists and nurse practitioners have continually seen improved outcomes for their patients. Our Health Connectors are here to help you and your child find a licensed mental healthcare provider who’s the perfect fit. Visit www.valerahealth.com/consult-today/ or click here to schedule a free consultation.

Valera Health is Here to Help Your Child or Teen with Their Mental Health

Emotional and mental health plays a pivotal role in developmental milestones for children and teens. If you’ve noticed your child, teenager or adolescent is struggling emotionally or behaviorally, Valera Health can help. 

Our therapists, nurse practitioners and psychiatrists are highly experienced with working with children, teens and adolescents ages 6-17 and use a science-backed and age-appropriate approach to telemental healthcare.

 

Valera Health’s Child & Adolescent Program (CAP)

Valera Health’s licensed therapists, psychiatrists and nurse practitioners use data-driven treatment methods tailored to the individual needs of each child, teen or adolescent. Our providers work around you and your child’s schedule by offering flexible sessions that range from 30-45 minutes to accommodate after school needs. 

Our providers have a proven track record of improving outcomes for Child and Adolescent Program (CAP) patients. 

According to recent statistics, Valera Health’s CAP outcomes have shown an average decrease of 4.9 points from the baseline score (based on intake) for GAD screenings (standard screening model for Generalized Anxiety Disorder). PHQ scores (a.k.a. Patient Health Questionnaire) decreased 4.8 points from baseline on average. 

Our CAP providers specialize in helping children and teens with bullying, anxiety, depression, ADHD, school stress, grief and loss, childhood trauma, childhood mood disorders, behavioral issues, parenting issues, family/parental issues, anger management, self-harm and stress management. 

We walk parents and caregivers through every step of their child’s treatment plan, so they can rest assured their child receives the high-quality care they need and deserve. Additional parental and/or familial support is also available as needed.

 

 

CHILDREN

Our CAP practitioners are highly-trained in age-appropriate mental healthcare for kids exhibiting signs of mental health issues. Our complete care model has been shown to be highly effective when it comes to treating common childhood difficulties such as anxiety, mood fluctuations, ADHD, school or family stress, adjustment issues and more. We offer treatment for children ages 6+.

 

TEENS & ADOLESCENTS 

We offer a wide-array of specialized therapeutic and psychiatric services to help teens and adolescents adapt to challenges such as anxiety, depression, identity, trauma, confidence-building, stress management and much more. Our CAP providers understand how to connect with teens on both an individual and age-appropriate level. Teen and adolescent services are available for patients ages 13-17.

 

FAMILY + PARENTAL CARE

Parents and caregivers play a pivotal role in their children’s mental health—which is why we include them in their children’s wellness journey every step of the way. Providers meet periodically with parents to review their children’s progress through measured results. When appropriate, therapists may also meet with parents to review individualized parenting and communication strategies. We also provide individualized adult care for parents, families and caregivers to help them face familial and parenting/caregiving challenges head on.

 

 

How Do I Get Started?

We make finding mental health support for your family easy with our simple consultation and matching process. The first step is to submit an online consultation form to let us know what services you’re looking for. After you’ve submitted your consultation form, a Health Connector will help you find a provider who is a perfect fit for your child, adolescent or teen. From there,  you can expect individual intake meetings for both yourself and your child with your chosen provider(s). 

Parents/caregivers will be included in their child’s ongoing care and communications so they will always be in the know. 

Get started today by clicking here or visiting www.valerahealth.com/consult-today/ to schedule a free consultation!

More Than PMS: Symptoms, Causes & Treatments for PMDD

 

 

Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) is a serious disorder that affects millions of women everywhere. Yet, many people confuse PMDD with premenstrual syndrome (PMS). So how do we tell the difference between PMDD and PMS? Keep reading for answers. 

 

What is PMDD & How is it Different from PMS?

While PMS and PMDD share some overlapping symptoms, PMDD goes well beyond PMS symptoms and can be debilitating for those who experience it. 

Clinically, PMDD is classified in the DSM-5 as a mood disorder in which symptoms occur in a cyclical manner in relation to menstrual cycles. 

PMS, on the other hand, is not classified as a mood disorder in the DSM-5, which psychologists, psychiatrists and therapists use to diagnose mental health conditions. 

 

 

Signs of PMDD

According to the National Library of Medicine, “In the majority of menstrual cycles, at least 5 symptoms must be present in the final week before the onset of menses, start to improve within a few days after the onset of menses, and become minimal or absent in the week postmenses.” 

PMDD symptoms include:

  • Depressed mood, feelings of hopelessness or self-deprecating thoughts
  • Anxiety, tension, and/or feelings of being “on edge”
  • Decreased interest in usual activities
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Lethargy, fatigue or lack of energy
  • Change in appetite including overeating or specific cravings
  • Hypersomnia or insomnia
  • Feeling overwhelmed or feeling like things are out of control
  • Physical symptoms including breast tenderness/swelling; joint or muscle pain; bloating or weight gain 

 

In addition, one or more of the following symptoms must be present for the diagnosis of PMDD:

  1. Marked affective lability (such as mood swings, a sudden onset of sadness, sudden crying or tearfulness, increased sensitivity to rejection)
  2. Marked irritability, anger or increased interpersonal conflicts

The severity of PMDD symptoms often cause interference with work, school, usual social activities or interpersonal relationships. 

If you’re curious about what people living with PMDD experience, check out this Women’s Health article for personal stories. 

 

 

Tracking PMDD Symptoms

Tracking PMDD symptoms and the dates when these symptoms occur is an important part of PMDD diagnosis. Some doctors require that symptoms be tracked over two or more menstrual cycles in order to provide a diagnosis. Typically, the onset of PMDD symptoms begin 7-10 days before your period and reside by the end of menstruation.

Menstrual cycle tracking apps are a great way to track both PMS and PMDD symptoms. Many allow you to select symptoms you are experiencing throughout the month, as well as help you track your monthly menstrual cycle so that it’s easier to predict. Here are 11 OB-GYN recommendations to help you track your menstrual cycle.

 

Online PMDD Support Groups

Fortunately, there are a ton of online communities and educational resources out there to help those struggling with PMDD.

Here are 3 PMDD support groups we recommend:

  • IAMPMD
    • This website has both resources for those with PMDD and for medical professionals who treat PMDD. It’s packed with PMDD related blog posts, symptom management advice, peer group resources (including a Facebook support group) and more.
  • r/PMDD on Reddit
    • This reddit sub is a support community where those with PMDD can come together for support, advice and to share personal experiences. If you need to vent, this is a great place to do so!
  • Inspire Premenstrual Disorders Support Group
    • This non-social media group welcomes open discussion and questions from the PMDD community.

If one of your loved ones has PMDD, this blog has great information on how to help them with this disorder. Try to learn as much about PMDD as you can, while also taking time for your own self-care. 

If you or someone you know are having a mental health emergency, including suicidal thoughts or actions, call 988 for emergency help. The 988 hotline is available nation-wide, 24/7. 

While PMDD can feel isolating and strange, remember that you are not alone and support is available.

 

 

PMDD Treatment

If you are experiencing the symptoms of PMDD, know that it isn’t “all in your head” and that your experience should be taken seriously by both yourself and medical professionals. A licensed mental health professional, such as a licensed therapist or psychiatrist, can help diagnose PMDD or rule out other possible causes of your symptoms.  

Therapy, antidepressant medication and lifestyle changes can also help alleviate some of the mental health symptoms caused by PMDD. At Valera Health, we offer affordable, remote therapy and psychiatry services from the comfort of your own home. Click here to schedule a consultation and talk to a Health Connector for free today!

6 Mental Health Support Groups for College Students

Navigating college can be a stressful and confusing, yet exciting process—and mental health issues among college students are far more common than one might think. A 2023 report by the National Education Association (NEA) shows that mental health disorders are at an all time high among college students. As part of this report, over 90,000 students across 133 U.S. campuses participated in a mental health survey.

The NEA survey results show:

  • 44% of students reported depression symptoms
  • 37% students reported experiencing anxiety
  • 15% of students surveyed reported considering suicide (the highest rate in the survey’s 15-year history)

The college mental health crisis affects students of all backgrounds, all income levels, all genders and gender identities, all sexual orientations and all races. Which is why Valera Health offers a flexible and robust virtual group therapy program perfect for any college student. Part therapist-led, part peer-led, group members will find support among their peers—no matter what they are struggling with.

What therapy groups are available for college students?

  1. ADHD Support: ADHD can play a huge impact on our ability to navigate school, work and interpersonal relationships. In this supportive skills-based group, participants will learn practical skills for managing ADHD symptoms, maximizing motivation, building confidence, reducing stress, increasing energy and mood, improving relationships and optimizing daily functioning.
  2. Anxiety/Depression: School, work, life stressors, worries and additional troubles can cause impairments in our lives that are challenging to navigate, manage and cope with. In this adult therapy group, participants will learn skills to help them alleviate anxiety and depression through thought processing, mindfulness, social engagement, exposure, and CBT while using a strengths based and person centered approach. Participants will gain social skills, problem solving abilities, decision making efforts, and emotion regulation skills to help increase awareness, mood, energy, and positivity so that they can build self-esteem and confidence to live a more fulfilling and purposeful life.
  3. Intersectionality: This group provides a safe space for those who are BIPOC (Black, Indigenous and People of Color) to freely express themselves amongst a group of their peers. Topics of discussion include trauma, microaggressions, workplace stress, relationships/partnerships and breaking the cycles of unhealthy parental relationships and more.
  4. LGBTQIA+ Support: Open for LGBTQIA+ identifying individuals, this collaborative, community-building and identity affirming group is peer and therapist-led. Together, we will focus on topics including coming out, late bloomers, navigating healthy relationships, communicating with family, building community, queer parenting, accessing gender-affirming care, kink, and non-monogamy. Nothing is off limits!
  5. Anxiety/Trauma: Presented through a trauma-informed lens, this group provides participants with a safe space to improve decision-making skills as well as discuss life transitions, work and/or school-related stress, relationship stress and more. Participants will work with both a therapist and their peers to develop coping strategies that will help them better navigate how to handle daily stressors and other triggers/symptoms of anxiety. Participants will also learn how trauma can impact our daily functioning, life goals and wellbeing and will learn strategies to help overcome these obstacles.
  6. Trauma Survivor Support: Created for young adults (ages 18-25)  who have experienced relational and/or sexual trauma, this group teaches participants a variety of coping skills for responding to and processing trauma. Among the many things participants will learn are self-validation techniques, how to address triggers and grounding techniques for dissociation/fight-or-flight trauma responses. Group participants will also learn how to reframe cognitive distortions and negative thoughts, basic self-care techniques, mindfulness, journaling techniques, how to discuss trauma with family and partners, and how to communicate relationship needs and difficulties around sex. 

How do I sign up?

At this time, the virtual groups listed above are only available in the state of New York. For our group therapy programs, we accept most major insurances as well as offer affordable self-pay rates ($42.50/session). Members must be 18+ to join. 

Valera Health also offers virtual individual therapy and psychiatry in 10 states and 20 languages. 

In addition, patients receive complimentary access to the Valera Health app, which is full of mental health resources and exercises, and access to live chats with your Care Team so that you can continue to make progress inside and outside of sessions. 

We accept most major insurances, Medicaid/Medicare and self-pay in order to make mental healthcare accessible and affordable for anyone in need.

If you’d like to join one of our therapy or support groups, or are interested in receiving individualized care, visit www.valerahealth.com/consult-today/ to schedule a free consultation with a Health Connector today!